Slow to Speak, Quick to Listen
07/10/2025
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,”
— James 1:19 (NIV)
We live in a world of constant noise and endless opinions, but today’s verse strikes with a quiet but impactful command: Slow down. Listen more. Speak less. Don’t let anger drive the conversation.
This is not just advice for polite conversation; it’s wisdom for living a Christ-centered life. James writes this in the context of urging believers to receive God’s Word and live it out, not just hear it. And one of the first evidences of that kind of living is how we communicate.
Let’s break it down.
“Quick to listen.” This is more than hearing words. It’s about being present, attentive, and willing to understand. Think of Jesus with the woman at the well. He listened to her story. He didn’t rush to correct her or shame her. He met her where she was. How often do we pause long enough to really hear someone’s heart?
“Slow to speak.” In our culture of hot takes and instant replies, this feels almost revolutionary. But wisdom knows when to hold back. Proverbs 17:28 says, “Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent.” Sometimes the most godly thing we can do is not say what we’re thinking. Boy do I need to follow this advice.
“Slow to become angry.” Anger, when left unchecked, almost always leads to sin. It hijacks our hearts and turns conversations into confrontations. James isn’t saying we should never feel anger, after all, even Jesus did, but we must be slow to it. We must let the Spirit filter our emotions before they become actions.
Imagine how our homes, workplaces, and churches would change if we lived out just this one verse. What if we were known as people who listen deeply, speak gently, and control our temper? It would set us apart in a world that’s always yelling over each other.
Here are some things to help you on your journey.
Practice active listening today. Choose one conversation where you will focus entirely on the other person. No interruptions, no preparing your response, just sit and listen.
Before responding to a frustrating situation, pause and count to five. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide your words.
Write down a moment this week when anger got the best of you. What could have changed if you had slowed down?
My challenge for you is this:
Speak less and listen more today. Let someone else go first in the conversation. Let the Spirit shape your tone, your timing, and your words.
Father, teach me to listen like You do, with patience, compassion, and understanding. Slow down my tongue and speed up my empathy. Help me control my anger so that I respond with grace and love, even when things are tense. Let my words bring peace, not pressure. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Pastor Jeff
#LoveGod #LovePeople #FindFreedom #FindYourDesign
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,”
— James 1:19 (NIV)
We live in a world of constant noise and endless opinions, but today’s verse strikes with a quiet but impactful command: Slow down. Listen more. Speak less. Don’t let anger drive the conversation.
This is not just advice for polite conversation; it’s wisdom for living a Christ-centered life. James writes this in the context of urging believers to receive God’s Word and live it out, not just hear it. And one of the first evidences of that kind of living is how we communicate.
Let’s break it down.
“Quick to listen.” This is more than hearing words. It’s about being present, attentive, and willing to understand. Think of Jesus with the woman at the well. He listened to her story. He didn’t rush to correct her or shame her. He met her where she was. How often do we pause long enough to really hear someone’s heart?
“Slow to speak.” In our culture of hot takes and instant replies, this feels almost revolutionary. But wisdom knows when to hold back. Proverbs 17:28 says, “Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent.” Sometimes the most godly thing we can do is not say what we’re thinking. Boy do I need to follow this advice.
“Slow to become angry.” Anger, when left unchecked, almost always leads to sin. It hijacks our hearts and turns conversations into confrontations. James isn’t saying we should never feel anger, after all, even Jesus did, but we must be slow to it. We must let the Spirit filter our emotions before they become actions.
Imagine how our homes, workplaces, and churches would change if we lived out just this one verse. What if we were known as people who listen deeply, speak gently, and control our temper? It would set us apart in a world that’s always yelling over each other.
Here are some things to help you on your journey.
Practice active listening today. Choose one conversation where you will focus entirely on the other person. No interruptions, no preparing your response, just sit and listen.
Before responding to a frustrating situation, pause and count to five. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide your words.
Write down a moment this week when anger got the best of you. What could have changed if you had slowed down?
My challenge for you is this:
Speak less and listen more today. Let someone else go first in the conversation. Let the Spirit shape your tone, your timing, and your words.
Father, teach me to listen like You do, with patience, compassion, and understanding. Slow down my tongue and speed up my empathy. Help me control my anger so that I respond with grace and love, even when things are tense. Let my words bring peace, not pressure. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Pastor Jeff
#LoveGod #LovePeople #FindFreedom #FindYourDesign
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